or I get this one too – “Don’t wait too much longer to have another one.”
These questions & comments have been coming up more and more lately. It’s like the closer your child gets to two years old people just assume that it is time for another one.
Last week I heard this question (or some form of it) at least 3 times. One being from the cashier at the grocery store that sees me every week. To be honest, when I first hear the question I think to myself “Well, actually I would be 7 months pregnant right now.” But I don’t want to tell strangers or people I barely know that I lost my unborn child. I just don’t want them to feel bad then for bringing it up and then feel like that have to apologize.
I still have bad days and think of Baby August a lot.
I also think how hard it would be right now because if it was anything like my last pregnancy I was so miserable by 7 months and to think I would be trying to chase and discipline my tough toddler right now. God knows best and His timing is perfect. I think to myself, “but I could have done it, Lord.” Sure, it would have been really REALLY tough, but I would have done it all just to have my baby in my arms in August.
But that was not the Lord’s will, so I have to look on the bright side of things. I will say I am so thankful that I have had this time with just Abel. We have the best time together! (minus the horrendous terrible two moments) I have so much energy right now and I love just being able to chase him around and easily pick him up.
So for now, I am loving life not being pregnant. Hopefully, the time will come again sooner than later, because we really do want more children, but for now here’s to having energy!
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Gosh, it’s like the questions never end. When you’re dating someone it’s “when are you getting married”. Then you marry. Then it’s “when are you gonna have kids?”. Then you have your first kid, to only hear the inevitable, “when are you gonna have more?”. It’s hilarious! Leave it to people to mark the succession of our lives for us! I know they don’t mean any harm, but boy the pressure! Well lend me some of your energy, btw. I soooo could use a boatload of it [insert sleepy yawn here].
By janice on 05.26.09 10:42 am | Permalink
I wish I could tell you that it gets better the older he gets but it doesn’t. We really got them more and more as Jacob got older. Like Janice said, it’s pretty amazing how people expect you to run a certain course in life. I know it’s even harder to deal with those questions when you’ve experienced a recent loss. I love your positive attitude about the timing. I’ll be praying for you.
By Shannon on 05.26.09 9:47 pm | Permalink
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